He Cheated – Should I Give Him a Second Chance?

Should he get a second chance if he cheated?

So you found out he cheated on you.  There are a lot of emotions going through your mind right now.  Most of all you’re wondering if you should give him another chance, or if breaking up with him is the right thing to do – Unfortunately, you are the only one that can decide that.  However, here are some tips to help you make the right decision.

  1. Once a Cheater… Always a Cheater?

Some people believe that if he cheated on you once, he will cheat on you over and over again in the future.  This is not necessarily the case.  If it was truly a one-off situation, it does not mean it will happen again.  Hopefully, he will have learned the lesson.  However, if it was a more meaningful relationship (read: not just a one-night stand) the chances of him doing it again are higher.

 

  1. Strike TWO – He’s OUT!

If you do decide to give him another chance – give him just ONE more chance.  If he cheats on you again, it’s time to kick him to the curb.  If you were to give him yet another chance after he cheated on you twice, he will start to view this as acceptable behaviour – or at least – behaviour you will put up with.  You don’t need to put up with it.

 

  1. Can You Live With That Picture?

I know you’ve already imagined the scene in your head of when he cheated on you.  If you give him a second chance are you able to push that image out of your head?  Make sure you can get over it – otherwise, the image will be like a giant elephant in the room whenever you’re together – you’ll be thinking about it, getting mad about it, but know you can’t keep talking about it.

 

  1. What is He Willing to DO?

Giving him another chance is going to be hard – for both of you.  It will be very difficult for you to trust him in the beginning.  Every time he leaves your side, you may think he’s going to cheat again – and that’s a normal reaction.  If he wants you to give him a second chance he’s going to have to work very hard to earn that trust back.  You will need all your questions answered and he needs to be completely transparent – one little white lie and the trust will crumble even further.